Chapter 1 - Why Are They Leaving?

Chapter 2 - Where Are They Going?

Chapter 3 - The Five Big Myths About Fallen-Away Catholics

Chapter 4 - The Basics

Chapter 5 - Pray, Fast, and Sacrifice

Chapter 6 - Equip Yourself

Chapter 7 - Plant the Seeds

Chapter 8 - Start the Conversation

Chapter 9 - Move the Dialogue Forward

Chapter 10 - Invite and Connect

Chapter 11 - Close the Loop

Chapter 12 - Personal Objections

Chapter 13 - Moral Objections

Chapter 14 - Theological Objections

Introduction

  • xvii, “My son and his wife…” - Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 45.
  • xvii, “All of this is so humiliating…” - Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 46.

Chapter 1 - Why Are They Leaving?

  • 2, “The latest data shows that half…” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 41.
  • 2, “...just 7% of young people raised in the Church still actively practice their faith…” - Quoted in Thomas Baker, “Young Catholic America”, Commonweal Magazine, October 9, 2014.
  • 2, “...eight-in-ten (79%) who drift away from faith leave before age 23…” - Cited by Pew Research Center, “The Shifting Religious Identity of Latinos in the United States”, May 7, 2014.
  • 3, “...one-in-four Hispanics in America are now former Catholics…” - Cited by Pew Research Center, “The Shifting Religious Identity of Latinos in the United States”, May 7, 2014.
  • 3, “As many as there are people.” - Pope Benedict XVI and Peter Seewald, Salt of the Earth: Christianity and the Catholic Church at the End of the Millennium (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 1997), 8.
  • 3, “The Church is a house with a hundred gates…” - G.K. Chesterton, The Catholic Church and Conversion (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2007, original 1926), 38.
  • 3, “...for every person who becomes Catholic, roughly 6.5 leave the Church.” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 14.
  • 5, “Here were the most common reasons people gave…” - Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 6.
  • 6-7, “The Diocese of Trenton, NJ found similar conclusions…” - Quoted in William J. Bryan, “Why They Left”, America, April 30, 2012. Accessed online at http://americamagazine.org/issue/5138/article/why-they-left.
  • 8, “One student responded…” - Sarah, “Christian Formation and the Cost of the Culture Wars”, A Queer Calling, May 1, 2014. Accessed online at http://aqueercalling.com/author/hamsterandsquirrelgmail-com.
  • 8, “...among former Catholic who are now unaffiliated with any religion…” - Pew Research Center, “U.S. Religious Landscape Survey”, June 1, 2008.
  • 8, “A group of Notre Dame researchers found…” - Quoted by Ann Carey, “Portrait of young Catholics sobering but vital”, Our Sunday Visitor, June 11, 2014.
  • 9, “...what sociologists Christian Smith and Melinda Lundquist Denton have coined ‘moralistic therapeutic deism.’” - See Christian Smith and Melinda Lundquist Denton, Soul Searching: The Religious and Spiritual Lives of American Teenagers (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2009), 163.
  • 9, “More than half (54%) of nominally Catholic young adults believe in God but think he is not personal.” - Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 67.
  • 10, “C.S. Lewis gives voice to this view…” - C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain (New York: Macmillan, 1962), 40.

Chapter 2 - Where Are They Going?

  • 14, “From 2007 to 2014, the ‘unaffiliated’ percentage of America soared from 16% to 23%.” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 3.
  • 14, “...21% were raised in an ‘unaffiliated’ home while 28% were raised Catholic…” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 43.
  • 14, “Just 36.” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 5.
  • 15, “...twice as likely now to identify as ‘nothing’ than as ‘Catholic.’” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 12.
  • 15, “Some of their traits may surprise you…” - Pew Research Center, “‘Nones’ on the Rise”, October 9, 2012.
  • 17, “If your son is like Rick, Madrid counsels…” - Patrick Madrid, Search and Rescue: How to Bring Your Family and Friends Into or Back Into the Catholic Church (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2001), 57.
  • 17, “...share of American adults dropped from 18% in 2007 to 14% in 2014.” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 20.
  • 19, “I believe in God and basically I celebrate Christmas.” - Quoted by Anna Sutherland, “Young Catholic America”, Books and Culture, May/June 2014.
  • 19, “I simply don’t practice anymore.” - Via email.
  • 19-20, “...as sociologist Christian Smith notes…” - Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 107.
  • 20, “...getting up early on Sunday is difficult.” - Via email.
  • 20, “Molly Oshatz, a Catholic who once identified as a ‘meh’ young adult herself…” - Molly Oshatz, First Things, “From ‘Meh’ to ‘Amen’”, June 8, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.firstthings.com/web-exclusives/2015/06/can-the-nones-go-from-meh-to-amen
  • 21, “But as G.K. Chesterton observed…” - G.K. Chesterton, The Autobiography of G.K. Chesterton (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2006, original ed. 1936), 217.
  • 21, “Frank Sheed and Maisie Ward…” - Frank Sheed and Maisie Ward, Catholic Evidence Training Outlines (Steubenville, OH; Franciscan University Press, 1993, original 1948), 158.
  • 21, “He needs to see what the convert C.S. Lewis came to realize…” - C.S. Lewis, God in the Dock (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 2014, original 1970), 102.
  • 22, “Stephen, who grew up Catholic…” - Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 38.
  • 24, “...explains researchers Christian Smith…” - Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 102.
  • 24, “Their numbers have doubled over the last decade…” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 30.
  • 24, “12% of former Catholics identify as atheist and 16% as agnostic.” - Cited by Mark Gray, “Your Average American Catholic”, America Magazine, May 18, 2015.

Chapter 3 - The Five Big Myths About Fallen-Away Catholics

  • 28, “According to Notre Dame sociologists…” - Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 117
  • 28, “Researches at the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia conclude…” - See “In Brief” section of report titled “Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America”. Accessed online at http://twentysomethingmarriage.org/in-brief.
  • 29, “...the 2013 data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) revealed that…” - Quoted in Neil Shah, “Just How Much Did the Recession Make 20-Somethings Delay Children?”, Wall Street Journal, April 28, 2015. Accessed online at http://blogs.wsj.com/economics/2015/04/28/just-how-much-did-the-recession-make-20-somethings-delay-children.
  • 30, “Lisa, a mother of two fallen-away Catholics…” - Via email.
  • 30-31, “In their book, Young Catholic America…” - Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 253
  • 31, “...have little to no effect on whether young people sustain their faith into adulthood.” - Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 11.
  • 31, “In the Catechism of the Catholic Church…” - CCC 2225.
  • 32, “Ronda’s son left the Church at age 16…” - Quoted in “To the Parent of a Prodigal”, Ronda’s Resting Place. Accessed online at http://rondasrestingplace.net/subpage29.html.
  • 33, “As my friend Bert Ghezzi counsels…” - Bert Ghezzi, “When Someone You Love Leaves the Church”, pamphlet (Fort Wayne, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2009).
  • 34, “...writes Carol Barnier…” - Carol Barnier, Engaging Today’s Prodigal: Clear Thinking, New Approaches, and Reasons for Hope (Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2012), 111.

Chapter 4 - The Basics

  • 40, “Catholic sociologist Christian Smith…” - Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 27
  • 41, “Why? Because ‘close relationship to religious adults…’” - Ibid., 268.
  • 41, “One young man confessed...” - Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 89.
  • 42, “A priest recently observed to me…” - Via personal conversation.
  • 44, “Abraham Piper, who drifted away from church as a teen…” - Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
  • 44-45, “Pope Francis has spoken out often against…” - Pope Francis, “A Big Heart Open to God,” America
  • 46, “Ugh! It just bugs me so much…” - Via email.
  • 46, “My parents and grandparents send me at least one ridiculous email a day…” - Via email.
  • 47, “St. John Paul Ii...summed up a better alternative strategy…” - Redemptoris Missio, 39.
  • 51, “In fact, Weddell affirms…” - Sherry Weddell, Forming Intentional Disciples: The Path to Knowing and Following Jesus (Fort Wayne, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 130
  • 53, “...writes Abraham Piper, himself a former rebellious teenager…” - Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.

Chapter 5 - Pray, Fast, and Sacrifice

  • 58, “I prayed for St. Monica to intercede for our family members....” - Quoted by Joseph Pronechen, “St. Monica, Pray for Our Wayward Children’s Conversions”, National Catholic Register, August 24, 2013.
  • 59, “By far, the most common responses were…” - Mary M. Gray, “The Catholic Family: 21st Century Challenges in the United States,” The Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate (CARA), June 2015
  • 60, “Bishop Robert Barron once visited a college campus…” - See Bishop Robert Barron, “Bishop Barron on Evangelizing with the Heart of a Shepherd,” YouTube, September 25, 2014
  • 61, “The survey of Catholic parents mentioned above asked…” - Mary M. Gray, “The Catholic Family: 21st Century Challenges in the United States,” The Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate (CARA), June 2015
  • 64, “It is impossible for me to explain how helpful the Holy Hour has been…” - Fulton Sheen, Treasure In Clay: The Autobiography of Fulton J. Sheen (New York: Image Books, 2008, original 1980), 201-202.
  • 65, “Our Lord told St. Faustina…” - St. Faustina Kowalski, Divine Mercy in My Soul (Stockbridge, MA: Congregation of Marians of the Immaculate Conception, 1987), 1209, 1397.
  • 65-66, “Rhonda, a New Hampshire mother of three…” - Quoted by Marge Fenelon, “What to Do When Children Leave the Church”, National Catholic Register, May 27, 2011. Accessed online at http://www.ncregister.com/site/article/what-to-do-when-children-leave-the-church.
  • 70, “My God, grant me the conversion of my parish…” - Quoted in Fr. Lance W. Harlow, “The immolations of the Cure d'Ars”, Homiletic and Pastoral Review, March 2011, 18-19.

Chapter 6 - Equip Yourself

  • 86, “The difficulty of explaining ‘why I am a Catholic’...” - G.K. Chesterton, “Why I Am a Catholic”. Accessed online at http://www.chesterton.org/why-i-am-a-catholic.
  • 89, “Your outline will include four elements…” - Shaun McAffee, Filling Our Father’s House: What Converts Can Teach Us About Evangelization (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2015), 37-38.
  • 89, “All people of God have a unique story to tell…” - Ibid., 40.

Chapter 7 - Plant the Seeds

  • 91, “I was baptized in the Catholic Church, and always called myself a Catholic…” - Via email.
  • 92, “The great danger for any parent…” - Rob Parsons, Bringing Home the Prodigals (Colorado Springs, CO: Authentic Publishing, 2007), 34.
  • 97, “When the Father’s house is filled with the Father’s love…” - Quoted in Rob Parsons, Bringing Home the Prodigals (Colorado Springs, CO: Authentic Publishing, 2007), 83
  • 97, “Rob Parsons tells of a young man…” - Rob Parsons, Bringing Home the Prodigals (Colorado Springs, CO: Authentic Publishing, 2007), 13.
  • 98, “Abraham Piper notes that…” - Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
  • 99, “My son was given a copy of Rediscover Catholicism…” - Quoted in Matthew Kelly, The Four Signs of a Dynamic Catholic (Hebron, KY: Beacon Press, 2013), 101.
  • 99, “Chela, the mother of a teenage agnostic, shared with me…” - Via email.
  • 100-103, “One of my favorite ‘seed gift’ stories come from my friend Leila” - Leila Miller, “Part Two: My Mother-in-Law Carol's Conversion Story”, Little Catholic Bubble blog, January 1, 2015. Accessed online at http://littlecatholicbubble.blogspot.com/2015/01/part-two-my-mother-in-law-carols.html.
  • 104, “The head researcher explained…” - Larry Alex Taunton, “Listening to Young Atheists: Lessons for a Stronger Christianity,” The Atlantic, June 6, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2013/06/listening-to-young-atheists-lessons-for-a-stronger-christianity/276584.
  • 105, “The Pew Research Center found…” - Amanda Lenhart, “Teens, Social Media & Technology Overview 2015,” Pew Research Center, April 9, 2015.

Chapter 8 - Start the Conversation

  • 107, “A recent survey of young Catholics found…” - Mark Gray, “The Catholic Teenager: A few mysteries solved,” CARA 1984 blog, May 2, 2013. Accessed online at http://nineteensixty-four.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-catholic-teenager-few-mysteries.html.
  • 107, “Although I can draw to Christ the souls of strangers…” - Patrick Madrid, Search and Rescue: How to Bring Your Family and Friends Into or Back Into the Catholic Church (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2001), xix.
  • 107, “...what Christian author Gregory Koukl calls ‘friendly curiosity’...” - Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 20.
  • 109, “Just ask about his soul…” - Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
  • 110, “Theologian Francis Schaeffer was once asked…” - Quoted in Jonathan K. Dodson, The Unbelievable Gospel: Say Something Worth Believing (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2014), 51.
  • 111-112, “Marcel LeJeune, campus minister at Texas A&M University…” - Marcel LeJeune, “Questions to Ask Others When Evangelizing,” Aggie Catholics Blog, May 11, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.aggiecatholicblog.org/2015/05/questions-to-ask-others-when-evangelizing
  • 113, “Evangelist Gregory Koukl calls this the ‘Columbo tactic’...” - Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 47.
  • 113, “...Trent Horn, expert apologist at Catholic Answers, has found five to be the most helpful…” - See Trent Horn, “The Apologist’s Most Important Tool,” Catholic Answers Blog. Accessed online at http://www.catholic.com/blog/trent-horn/the-apologist%E2%80%99s-most-important-tool.
  • 116, “Gregory Koukl offers a similar approach…” - Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 86.

Chapter 9 - Move the Dialogue Forward

  • 119, “Gregory Koukl has a good rule…” - Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 30
  • 120, “...55% of communication is body language, 38% is tone of voice, and 7% is the actual words spoken.” - Jeff Thompson, “Is Nonverbal Communication a Numbers Game?”, Psychology Today. Accessed online at https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beyond-words/201109/is-nonverbal-communication-numbers-game
  • 122-123, “Anglican Bishop N.T. Wright offers a telling anecdote.” - N.T. Wright, “Jesus and the Identity of God,” Ex Auditu 1998, 14, 42–56. Accessed online at http://ntwrightpage.com/Wright_JIG.htm.
  • 123, “Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen famous observed…” - Fulton Sheen, preface to Radio Replies, Volume 1. Accessed online at http://www.radioreplies.info/vol-1-preface.php
  • 125-126, “Remaining calm while discussing faith with your child…” - Austen Ivereigh and Kathryn Jean Lopez, How to Defend the Faith Without Raising Your Voice: Civil Responses to Catholic Hot Button Issues, Revised and Updated (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 15.
  • 129, “‘Shoe pebble’ questions work in a similar way.” - Credit for “shoe pebble” concept goes to Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 38.
  • 130, “...about 90% of Catholics giving him a favorable rating” - Pew Forum, “Pope Francis Viewed Positively by the U.S. Public and Catholics”. Accessed online at http://www.pewforum.org/2015/06/16/catholics-divided-over-global-warming
  • 130, “One viral online article carried the title…” - Dave Sloan, “Pope Francis Made My Mom Stop Hating Catholicism,” Aleteia. Accessed online at http://www.newsmax.com/US/Pope-Frances-Catholic-aleteia-mother-despised/2015/04/06/id/636755.
  • 131, “Another person shared the following story…” - Catholic Voices, “Ten Principles of Civil Communication,” Our Sunday Visitor, pamphlet.
  • 132, “As Pope Francis says…” - Pope Francis, Angelus message, December 13, 2013.

Chapter 10 - Invite and Connect

  • 139, “Pope Paul VI wrote…” - Paul VI, Evangelii Nuntiandi, 41.
  • 141, “CARA, the leading Catholic research group, found that…” - Quoted in Mark Gray, “Lapsed Catholics weigh in on why they left the Church,” Our Sunday Visitor Newsweekly. Accessed online at https://www.osv.com/OSVNewsweekly/Article/TabId/535/ArtMID/13567/ArticleID/16269/Lapsed-Catholics-weigh-in-on-why-they-left-Church.aspx#sthash.FhfEB8uj.dpuf
  • 143-144, “It would have been hard to stick with the Mass…” - Quoted in Kristin Peterson, “You can go home again: Catholics return to the church”, US Catholic, June 1, 2010. Accessed online at http://www.uscatholic.org/church/2010/06/you-can-go-home-again-catholics-return-church
  • 144, “Carol Barnier knows this from experience…” - Carol Barnier, Engaging Today’s Prodigal: Clear Thinking, New Approaches, and Reasons for Hope (Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2012), 111.
  • 145, “Think of your own journey to Christ…” - Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 39.

Chapter 11 - Close the Loop

  • 147, “Catholics stop too soon when they evangelize…” - Marcel LeJeune, “The Fatal Flaw of Catholics Who Evangelize,” Aggie Catholics Blog, June 1, 2015.
  • 147 - “Shaun McAfee, a recent convert to Catholicism…” - Shaun McAffee, Filling Our Father’s House: What Converts Can Teach Us About Evangelization (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2015), 45.
  • 149, “Campus minister Marcel LeJeune adds one more bit of advice…” - Marcel LeJeune, “The Fatal Flaw of Catholics Who Evangelize,” Aggie Catholics Blog, June 1, 2015.
  • 154, “Instead, as one author put it, parishes today are…” - Sally L. Mews, Returning Home to Your Catholic Faith: An Invitation (Liguori, MO: Liguori Publications, 2003), 25.
  • 156, “Since cohabitation is not in itself a canonical impediment to marriage…” - United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, “Marriage Preparation And Cohabiting Couples: An Information Report on New Realities and Pastoral Practices”, 1999. Accessed online at http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/marriage/marriage-preparation/cohabiting.cfm.
  • 157, “I wish I could come back to the Catholic Church…” - Quoted in Pete Vere, “Strong Medicine”, Catholic Answers Magazine, Volume 18, Number 9.
  • 159, “Lorene Hanley Duquin debunks some other popular myths about annulments…” - Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 198.

Chapter 12 - Personal Objections

  • 168, “Only 46% of Catholics are aware…” - Mark M. Gray, “Your Average American Catholic”, America, May 18, 2015. Accessed online at http://americamagazine.org/issue/your-average-american-catholic.
  • 168-169, “Researchers from the Diocese of Trenton, New Jersey…” - See William J. Bryan, “Why They Left”, America, April 30, 2012. Accessed online at http://americamagazine.org/issue/5138/article/why-they-left.
  • 171, “A recent survey found that only 61% of Catholic teens agree…” - Mark M. Gray, “The Catholic Teenager: A few mysteries solved,” 1984 Blog. Accessed online at http://nineteensixty-four.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-catholic-teenager-few-mysteries.html.
  • 172, “To get rid of my sins.” - G.K. Chesterton, The Autobiography of G.K.Chesterton (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2006, original 1936), 324.
  • 175, “A recent Pew Forum survey found that nearly 40% of marriages…” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape,” May 12, 2015
  • 176, “Elizabeth struggled with her faith for many years…” - Via email.
  • 176-177, “Marisa offers another heartbreaking experience.” - Via email.
  • 177, “My sister says Catholics are hypocrites…” - Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 22.
  • 178-179, “...he usually answers with this…” - Fr. Andrew Carrozza, “God would never forgive me THAT!” Accessed online at http://fathercarrozza.com/2012/08/24/god-would-never-forgive-me-that.

Chapter 13 - Moral Objections

  • 180, “One lady who left the Church…” - Quoted in Mary Gray, “Lapsed Catholics weigh in on why they left the Church,” Our Sunday Visitor Newsweekly. Accessed online at https://www.osv.com/OSVNewsweekly/Article/TabId/535/ArtMID/13567/ArticleID/16269/Lapsed-Catholics-weigh-in-on-why-they-left-Church.aspx#sthash.FhfEB8uj.dpuf
  • 180-181, “Pope Francis replied…” - Quoted in “‘Who am I to judge?’ Pope’s remarks to not change church teaching,” Catholic News Service, July 31, 2013.
  • 183, “...a collection of national surveys revealed…” - See David Kinnaman, unChristian: What a New Generation Really Thinks About Christianity…And Why It Matters (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2007), 27.
  • 185, “...a major national Pew study found that…” - Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape,” May 12, 2015.
  • 187, “For example, Kat said…” - Via email.
  • 190-191, “Patricia is quite sure…” - Via email.
  • 191, “Today, roughly two thirds of couples…” - Lauren Fox, “The Science of Cohabitation: A Step Toward Marriage, Not a Rebellion”, The Atlantic, March 20, 2104. Accessed online at http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-science-of-cohabitation-a-step-toward-marriage-not-a-rebellion/284512.
  • 191, “...only one-of-four Americans disapprove of cohabiting before marriage.” - Brandon Gaille, “43 Statistics On Cohabitation Before Marriage”, BrandonGaille.com, September 9, 2014. Accessed online at http://brandongaille.com/43-statistics-on-cohabitation-before-marriage.
  • 191, “A Pew study found…” - Quoted in Anne Hendershott, “Digging deeper into the Pew data about the nones, millennials, and Christians”, Catholic World Report, May 25, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.catholicworldreport.com/Blog/3900/digging_deeper_into_the_pew_data_about_nones_millennials_and_christians.aspx
  • 191, “The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops agrees…” - United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, “Marriage Preparation And Cohabiting Couples: An Information Report on New Realities and Pastoral Practices”, 1999. Accessed online at http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/marriage/marriage-preparation/cohabiting.cfm
  • 192, “Bradford Wilcox...observes that…” - Quoted in Lauren Fox, “The Science of Cohabitation: A Step Toward Marriage, Not a Rebellion”, The Atlantic, March 20, 2104. Accessed online at http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-science-of-cohabitation-a-step-toward-marriage-not-a-rebellion/284512
  • 194, “Courtney, a former Catholic…” - Via email.
  • 195, “As the leaders behind Catholic Voices explain…” - Austen Ivereigh and Kathryn Jean Lopez, How to Defend the Faith Without Raising Your Voice: Civil Responses to Catholic Hot Button Issues, Revised and Updated (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 188.
  • 195-196, “Notre Dame theologian Catherine Lacugna paints the statistical picture…” - Catherine Lacugna, “Catholic Women as Ministers and Theologians," America, October 10, 1992.
  • 197, “In response to questions about why they left the Catholic Church…” - Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 9.
  • 198, “Dr. Marguerite Duane, a family physician and professor…” - Cited by Matthew Bunson, “Pill’s pitfalls create ‘contraceptive conundrum’”, Our Sunday Visitor, August 12, 2015
  • 199, “When used properly, some NFP methods have been measured to be over 98% effective…” - See Joe Heschmeyer, “Just How Effective is Natural Family Planning, Anyway?”, Shameless Popery, September 11, 2013
  • 202, “One mother verbalized the thoughts that many parents share…” - Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 192.
  • 202, “I was told that my divorce…” - Ibid., 193.

Chapter 14 - Theological Objections

  • 207, “The French mathematician Blaise Pascal said…” - Blaise Pascal, Pensees, 430.
  • 207, “A recent Pew Survey found that one-third of former-Catholics…” - Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 13
  • 207, “Similarly, around a quarter of young adults believe…” - Barna Group, “Six Reasons Young Christians Leave Church” (September 28, 2011). Accessed online at https://www.barna.org/teens-next-gen.article/528-six-reasons-young-christians-leave-church
  • 209, “The torch of science can’t illuminate…” - Trent Horn, 20 Answers: Faith and Science (El Cajon, CA: Catholic Answers, 2015), 25
  • 209, “Recent surveys show that roughly half of working scientists…” - Cited in Fr. Robert Spitzer, “Jesuit Philosopher Works to Demonstrate Compatibility of Faith and Science,” Catholic World Report, November 4, 2014. Accessed online at http://www.catholicworldreport.com/Item/3492/jesuit_philosopher_works_to_demonstrate_compatibility_of_faith_and_science.aspx
  • 212, “Sometimes even Catholics have lost or never had the chance…” - Pope John Paul II, L’Osservatore Romano (English Edition), March 24, 1993, 3.
  • 212, “...only 60 percent of Catholic adults even believe…” - Cited in Sherry Weddell, Forming Intentional Disciples: The Path to Knowing and Following Jesus (Fort Wayne, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 35
  • 213, “In my experience as a Protestant…” - Accessed online at http://www.catholiceducation.org/en/religion-and-philosophy/apologetics/how-i-led-catholics-out-of-the-church.html
  • 216, “...all clergy should remain in close contact with the Scriptures…” - Dei Verbum, 25
  • 217, “...eight-in-ten (81%) cited enjoying the religious services…” - Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 28
  • 219, “Susan keenly remembers…” - Via email.

Conclusion

  • 223, “...focus on helping your child become 1% closer to God each day than the day before.” - Thanks to the “Art of Manliness” blog for this idea. See Brett and Kate McKay, “Get 1% Better Every Day: The Kaizen Way to Self-Improvement”, August 10, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.artofmanliness.com/2015/08/10/get-1-better-every-day-the-kaizen-way-to-self-improvement